Prov 27:9. Oil and perfume make the heart glad, So a man’s counsel is sweet to his friend.
A counsel from a friend should be a thing of delight, helpful, soothing and refreshing. The reverse is the case concerning Job. His friends ended up adding injury to the salt; by making matters worse. No oil to soothe the pains, no perfume to make the heart glad!
Would you have prayed for your friends if you were Job? Considering the fact that they had doubted your spirituality and called you all sorts of names during your challenges and trials?
Job 8: 5 If thou wouldest seek unto God betimes, and make thy supplication to the Almighty;
6 If thou wert pure and upright; surely now he would awake for thee, and make the habitation of thy righteousness prosperous.
The above statements were made by one of Job’s friends. His friends showed up to sympathize with him for the untold tragic loss in his life. Loss of children, possessions and to cap it all, his strange illness. Things that are sources of joy to him disappeared in a twinkle of an eye. It is an understatement to say that what he readily need at this time is a word of care, comfort and sympathy from people close to him; since his wife hasn’t been of any help on this occasion. Instead, she suggested to him to curse God whom they believed must have been the cause of their afflictions.
Job 2: 8 And he took him a potsherd to scrape himself withal; and he sat down among the ashes.9 Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.10 But he said unto her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. What? shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil? In all this did not Job sin with his lips.
Sadly, his friends were regrettably spiteful and insensitive to his plight. They ranted and accused him for what has happened. I can imagine what he had to put up with during this visit.
In the course of our lives, we will all come across people like Job’s friends. They would be friends, but their behaviours would be like enemies.They won’t help when we expect them to help. They may accuse you of something you have no knowledge or innocent of. When this happens, we will feel disappointed due to their closeness to us. But we must learn from Job who did not hesitate to forgive them and move on with his life.
Job 42:10 And the Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before
Imagine if he had refused to pray for them, would he have experienced his own restoration? I doubt it!
You must free your heart and mind from grudges, malice, anger, bitterness, so that nothing hinders your prayers to God. Nothing can be compared to a peaceful heart! Prov. 4:23.