The question of identity is a question for everyone. It is a matter of destiny. It answers the question of purpose and reason for living. It is a personal question we must all answered. It unravelled any mystery surrounding our lives. To be ignorant of one’s identity is to live a life of nonentity.
Jesus asked His disciples this question not because He doesn’t know who he was but to know if his closest people actually knew him and also to let them realised that it is possible for people to call them what they are not.
Mark 8:27-28. Jesus and his disciples went on to the villages around Caesarea Philippi. On the way he asked them, “Who do people say I am?” 28.They replied, “Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, one of the prophets.”
A great lesson must be learned here. It is very possible for people to misunderstand our real identities. If you don’t know who you are or what you are born to do, life and people will offer you one. No one knows you better than your creator. Only God has the answer. We must all approach Him for our individual’s answer. When Jesus asked this question, it was Peter who answered it, but the credit goes to God; the Creator, who revealed it. God has all the answers to all our questions of identity and destiny.
Jer 33:3. Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’
God has a position for everyone to occupy in His Kingdom. We are uniquely born to fulfil a purpose on earth to glorify Him. Just as our DNA and mobile numbers are unique, so our lives destiny. No one will ever find satisfaction and fulfilment in imitating others. The best you can be is the second best to the original person.
Gal 6:4 (NLT) Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else.
Personally, I had suffered in this area while growing up. I had allowed the opinion of others to build insecurity in me. I had suffered verbal abuse, name calling here and there, due to my stubborn behaviour in my formative years. Thereby culminated into a lack of confidence, timidity, low self-esteem that resulted in being shy to speak in public, etc. Therefore, I couldn’t express myself well enough academically and in a relationship due to those names I’ve been called. All because I never believe in myself.
Pro 3:26 (NLT) for the LORD is your security. He will keep your foot from being caught in a trap.
Retrospectively, academically in my secondary school days; even though I was one of the best students, if not the best during my set. You rarely see me talk in the class, but always end up being the best student in the class, later became the Senior Boy Prefect of the School. This has always been part of me even to the Polytechnic level. I remembered a time in my HND level, at Polytechnic Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria. There was a particular test we had in a course called Climatology which I scored the highest mark. Our lecturer and many of my classmates were shocked to their bones because they haven’t been seeing me voicing out my opinions or made any contribution during lectures. Such was my way of life then. I have learnt in a hard way that no matter how good you are the lack of confidence could be a hindrance to anyone’s ability. People don’t just become shy and timid for no reason, there is always a cause.
Heb 10:35. So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.
Over the years in my walk with God, He has helped me to build a solid faith in Him and in myself. I can literally do what I couldn’t do before. He has used me in a different capacity in His house. I can speak publicly anywhere now. My confidence is now sky high!
The dream God has for everyone is always bigger than them. Don’t be incapacitated with the trauma of abuse you probably have suffered in the past. If Jabez overcame his predicament, you will as well. Engage yourself in prayer and believe in what the word of God says concerning your new life in Christ. Meditate and personalised every word. Look into the mirror of God and see the new you and be proud of it.
2 Cor 3:18. And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.
Never sell yourself cheap. You are a valuable person. (Matt.10:31)
You are precious to God and man. The whole world is in need of your talent and gift. (Rom 8:19)
You may have been called Nabal, that’s not who you are (1 Sam 25:25)
You may have been named Jabez, that’s not who you are ( 1 Chron 4:9)
You may have been seen as a Carpenter’s son or daughter, that’s not who you are (Matt.13: 55)
Express yourself fully and don’t put any limit on your ability(Phil4:13)
Be confident about the ability of God resident inside of you (Col 1:27)
Don’t see yourself as a stammerer when your creator sees you as a deliverer ( Exo 4:10-11)
If you see yourself as a stammerer, you will be at the mercy of man (Aaron was called in to help Moses, because he sees himself not capable) Exo 7:1-2. If you see yourself as a deliverer, you are at the mercy of God. Which one do you prefer?
Come to think of it. If God is using you in the area of your strength, who will take the glory? You of course! But if He’s using you in the area of your weaknesses, definitely you will give him the glory.
2 Cor 4:7 (NLT) We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure. This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves.