HOW TO HANDLE DISAPPOINTMENTS
I count it as a privilege to be on this platform. May our good Lord continue to bless every reader here.
I hope you will have the patience to read through this materials, but I’m convinced if you do, there will be no more disappointment in your life.
I made some discoveries reading Mark 11:12-14,20.
It was a scenario of disappointment and how it was handled by Jesus
I pray that you shall no longer suffer disappointment in Jesus name.
Many of us face a different issue of disappointment in our lives; some in business; some others in career; some others in marriage and relationship.
I recalled the story of a young woman who came to me for counselling. She was in her mid 30’s without any relationship. As she let the cat out of the bag, I sensed that though she desired to be in a relationship, yet she was quite afraid to start one. I asked her why, and she told me her tale. It really was pathetic.
She had her first relationship, and when they were about a month into the relationship, the young man just left her and travelled abroad. She and her family became so disappointed. It was just shameful !
A year later, she started another relationship with another man. They were a few weeks into it when the young man passed away. She was clearly distressed. But, she picked the bits of her life together and came to Lagos from her state.
About two years passed, and she started another relationship with a promising young man. The relationship progressed, and they began to make arrangements towards marriage. This time around, the trouble took a fresh dimension. She was travelling, and she had an accident. She woke up in the Hospital to discover her leg had been fractured. She was still in the hospital when the purported day of marriage came. She left the hospital with a limp. By this time, the guy was no more interested. She was speaking to me crying like a baby.
Dear reader, I want you to know that God has no plan of disappointment for you. His desire is that whatever you set out to do bring you the expected favourable outcome. His will is that you have results exceeding far beyond your expectation and nothing less.
Ephesians 3:20 (KJV) “….…he is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us”
Anything short of exceedingly abundant result should not be taken. In the case study above, Jesus reacted sharply against the disappointing situation He faced.
Many of us would rather have said, ’it is one of those things you know!’ We would have excused or wished it away, but not Jesus.
Listen to me carefully. That disappointment is not one of those things at all. To every situation of frustration, you must put forth a strong reaction. If you were expecting an A in a course and you made a C, don’t permit it; don’t accept it; don’t explain it; just react to it. Do something about it because it’s not your lot.
Also, never give an excuse for disappointment. Many people do, but I want to let you know that whatever you give an excuse for has a tendency of reproducing or reoccurring. Whether it is a mistake or disappointment, if you give an excuse for it, it will re-occur or reproduce itself.
This is why you must not give an excuse for disappointment.
For instance, Jesus had every reason to give an excuse for the disappointment especially since Scripture said that the time of fig was not yet.
Mark 11:13 (KJV) “…for the time of the figs was not yet.”
Despite this, Jesus still reacted to let us know that no apology is genuine enough to make us get disappointed. He could have said, ‘well, it is not its time to produce fruit anyway’. But he did not.This must also be our reaction. He looked beyond the season and made a pronouncement against the situation.
Some people encounter serious issues of disappointment and rather than react, they will say something like, ‘You know, it happened like that I believe, because it is a new environment, so such cannot be averted.’
That’s how people excuse and accept disappointment into their life.
Why must you react against disappointment?
1. The first reason you must respond against disappointment is that it is not the will of God.
It is not the will of your Father that you get disappointed.
Disappointment is not permitted in your life.
Jesus knew that much. He was aware that disappointment is contrary to Scripture. If you were expecting a positive outcome, it should not become negative. The Bible says that,
The Bible says that,
Prov. 23:18 (KJV) “Surely there is an end and thine expectation shall not be cut off”
For emphasis, it is repeated in a way in Proverbs 24 that says,
Prov. 24:14 (KJV) “So shall the knowledge of wisdom be unto thy soul: when thou hast found it, then there shall be a reward, and thy expectation shall not be cut off.”
Friend, never entertain dashed hope. React to it as Jesus acted. If you accept it without doing anything about it, the situation will remain the same, and you will not be able to attain the level God has prepared for you.
2. The number two reason you must react against disappointment is to avoid re-occurrence.
Your reaction may not be able to undo the already done, but it sends a signal to the forces responsible for such disappointment that such will not be condoned next time.
Ultimately, your reaction sets the source of the disappointment on fire.
When you react against disappointment, the source of it dries from its root.Your response is not only addressing the situation, but it addresses its source. And that source is set on fire and terminated.
Mark 11:20 (KJV) And in the morning, as they passed by, they saw the fig tree dried up from the roots.
Can you understand the effect of reacting against disappointment?
It does not only address the situation on hand, but it also addresses the root cause of the disappointment. The root is dried up thereby eliminating the possibility of a re-occurrence.
I’m praying that the source of your disappointment is now put on fire, and by so doing put an end to disappointments in your life.
Before I conclude this teaching, I find it necessary to let you know, dear reader, that you are not to sit down and refuse to make progress because of disappointment you have experienced.
Jesus after encountering the situation reacted and moved on with his life and mission.
Let’s see Mark 11 again to establish this.
Mark 11: 14 (NLT)Then Jesus said to the tree, “May no one ever eat your fruit again!” And the disciples heard him say it.15 When they arrived back in Jerusalem, Jesus entered the Temple……….
He never allowed the situation to weigh down on His heart. He quickly moved on.
Please listen, for every case of disappointment or dashed hope, all you need do is see if the situation is redeemable and if not, put it behind you and move on.
After that experience and the sharp reaction, Jesus never experienced disappointment again. Disappointment ceased in His life and ministry.
No more disappointment in your life, because Jesus is on your side. May He disappoints all your disappointments.